(continued from part 1)

There was about a couple of times that I did the
peacocking. I did that to see if it worked because I heard
that other guys were doing it.

I felt ridiculous when I went out and was totally
incongruent with my personality.

As we all know women love’s fashion and they like a
well-dressed man.

I noticed that some of my best pickups occurred when I was
in my workout clothes, or I was wearing something really
basic – like jeans and a tanktop.

At the same time, women definitely did not respond well to
those muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or
super-tight shirts at the club.

This make me think… that maybe this is not on how much
the clothes cost or how flashy they are…

I guess there is something else going on.

There are two things going on. This two things must be
manage or balance.

First and foremost, never seek approval from women. If a
woman can tell that you are trying to impress her or make
her like you, you are toast.

So if you look like you got dressed with the intention of
getting women’s attention, they’ll see you coming a mile a
way and put up their defenses.

You shouldn’t have to look like a pick up artist.

It’s better to dress reasonably, and not put too much
thought into it.

However, you want to present yourself in the best way you
can and not to look sloppy.

This comes back to self-expression.

You already have a sense what kind of man you are, what
your “scene” is, what you think is cool.

Don’t change that.

Instead, cultivate it, with these simple tweaks.

Wear colors that appeal to your skin tone and hair color.
This isn’t rocket science. Go to an upscale men’s clothing
store, and ask someone about this. Or look online.

Next thing, make sure your clothes are clean, wrinkle free
and reasonably updated.  A woman shouldn’t have to worry
about bringing you around her friends.

Most of all, be sure that your clothes fits well, they
BRING OUT YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.

Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your
shoulders.

Put on a pants that make your legs look long and thin.

Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.

Groom yourself – nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a decent
haircut. Shave, or don’t, but figure out what looks best and
take it all the way.

One other piece…

Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look
of a small decoration that says, “yeah, I can fuck.”

I don’t want to talk too much because that’s a whole other
topic because that’s a whole other topic. Just use your
intuition with this one.

What The Pickup Artist on VH1 Wont Tell You About Fashion 1

I am NOT the most fashionable guy in the world.

Usually it is my girlfriend who pick the clothes for me – not for my benefit…

… so that if we go out in public together she will not feel embarrassed!

If I were the one to pick my clothes, I’d rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.

I definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion style and design. It is like a work of art when I look at a very well dressed woman, I dig that.

I kinda lose respect when a guy is “too stylish.”

Don’t misinterpret me, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a basic of being a masculine.

But some guys take this so much.

Case in point, the obsession with “peacocking” in the pickup Community for the past several years.

It makes me cringe when I hear this term.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

Let me explain what is “peacocking,” in case you’re not familiar.

There was an emergence of routine-based “game” a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.

Reason for this is that I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and saying jokes and routines that other guys came up with JUST FELT WRONG.

On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and game-playing was to eventually get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they’d think you were cooler than them.

Think about the layers in the dating approach. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) look for approval (as if girls were an authority on what makes man a man)

b) hide the truth that you’re looking for approval

c) play games with women so that they will seek your approval when they feel insecure

YUCK

“Peacock,” is one of the main techniques of this approach as to dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would “notice” you and want to talk to you.

Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn’t a bad thing because some have personal meaning.

But I never do that just to make women like me.

I’m sure many guys have seen the advocates of this approach on TV shows,straining to make sense out of this hare-brained “technique.”

I felt sad to the students of other pickup schools that I’ve encountered because these poor guys were not only nervous, clumsy, misdirected…they looked RETARDED.

So I’d like to set a record when it comes to fashion and meeting girls.

There are only few things that you need to focus when it comes to your appearance.

After knowing this stuff, you should put it out of your mind and TAKE ACTION before women can notice you.

Before moving on, I have something to expose.

(To be Continued in Part 2)

A few weeks ago Mystery’s the Pick Up Artist was aired on VH1. I caught this recent episode and wanted to share with you my predictions.

What I liked:

1. Mystery’s Ridiculous Outfits. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. The shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don’t believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It’s a  trainwreck.

2. The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

3. The Students. I love pick up students in general, they’re always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

What I didn’t like:

1. J-Dog’s hair. I don’t think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

2. Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like “flossing before you brush etc..” Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for GOOD reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you’ll get the girl to answer your question, but that’s not always what I call PROGRESS. If you’re going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

3. Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail… He’s so attached to his structured method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out… “Yeah he should have used a false time constraint”. How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Out of the four dudes left, here’s some predictions:

Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery’s tuleage. He’s got that “inner flame” that drives him to excel at different things, but he’s going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He’s still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He’s chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what’s holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he’ll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He’s got the attitude down, but he’s the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He’ll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don’t see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he’s gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He’s in the friend zone still. Doesn’t matter if he got that chick’s number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He’s interesting but… too interesting. It’s giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc…

Overall, the show is super entertaining and I’ll definitely love to see another episode if I can.

This is the part III of the story telling technique which is very powerful and ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.

What I will share with you will really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved. This techniques is about adding TOUCH to your stories.

An example of this would be like “My friend and I were walking over there like this… (lock arm in arm).”

If you are using something like this arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm. And remember, only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story.

An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be “I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).

In order for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.

Another fun thing to add into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.

These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.

Most often I am mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word “friend” to “girlfriend” or name dropping by saying “my friends Lisa and Sarah” anything along those lines.

These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories… without actually bragging. Now you don’t need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.

It just have to be subtle and never the subject of your story. They are just minor details.

To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don’t provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it’s not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.

Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.

Eliminate all unnecessary content including all redundancies and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don’t affect the overall story.

For now just aim for about 2 minutes stories.

How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. An expert storyteller could captivate the audience for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.

Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.

Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.

Here is the FINAL revised version of my story.:

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)…Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.

Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place… kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)

So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa’s friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this…(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty…thick breath….oh it was terrible.

(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway… my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).

Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table… and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)

Little did he know… that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened… it was full… so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!

(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)

It looked like he wet his pants!

His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again… I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious!

(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)

If we look back at the original example of…

“So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”

You can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.

Before giving you a conclusion of this long newsletter….I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.

-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.

-Always be painting a picture, if possible appeal to all the senses.

-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton’s character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.

-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.

-Avoid pauses like “ummmm and ugghhh” everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.

-Do not memorize your stories. You don’t want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it…but don’t become a scripted narrator.

-Lastly and most important to sum things up….

Do not tell your stories AT your audience…tell your stories TO your audience.

Always make sure they are involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.

Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

When I started to get good, and could escalate quickly with any girl, I remember those girls I slept with but couldn’t keep around.

And it’s quite sad.

There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.

But I had my head higher than my ass.

…maybe that’s a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. But I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But…

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all relative.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

A woman won’t accept you if you don’t accept yourself.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don’t like yourself?

She will HATE your presence and don’t want to be around you.

Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that’s in my experience.

And I am one of them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.

The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.

Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after “mating”, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not divided from your game.

The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.

You might be thinking “But I’m insecure, nervous and awkward.”  I disagree. That’s not you.

That is the indistinct you.

That’s you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn’t keep girls around after sleeping with them.

I wasn’t aware of shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape.

In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And women are different from each other. For example, I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want one woman to be just a partner in bed. I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what we want.

I think of all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is a about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, date, and sleep with.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase,  “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two – my urges and

achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time – it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my

life.”

It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,

excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff – like spending too much time or money on a

woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her

time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There’s another societal factor going on, that I call the “doofus dad” syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are “better.”

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here’s the thing – if you are giving a woman too much time, you won’t be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.

When I analyzed tons and tons of dates I went on women, it was just when I realized it.

After that I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but with my FULL ATTENTION.

Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

This make my girlfriends can’t get enough of me – and I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”

Ask you know, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me, and women can’t be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

Just be real with her – don’t spend more time that you want. no need of games.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.

Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I’ll have to take up in another newsletter.

It’s not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

You should think that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can “keep” her.

I want to make one more point – when you start being honest about how much time you’re willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That’s why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It’s all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge from within.

And no, we don’t intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.

Vin

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Are you interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a “10″ kind of a woman? If yes, then you will find the letter very interesting.

But before anything else, let’s go waaaay back…

Back in high school, I had a girl classmate that was so perfect.

That girl was so beautiful, cool and smart that it was hard to look at her (and yet I can’t take my eyes off away from her)…

She was friendly to everyone and was one of the popular kids in school.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I was really wanted to ask her to senior prom… but at the last minute I chickened out.

It was a few years later that I realized that the girl had a crushed on me all the senior year.

I’ve talked to a lot of guys and this seems a pretty common experience among them there was this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, and they missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart…

Ah, the hard to tame “10,” a perfect girl that every guy dream of but never seems to have it.

I have so many things to say about this so-called “10’s.” In one word they are women of another “breed,” but at the same time, what makes them so is in the way they think.

To help you resolve this conundrum, and maybe help you find that “perfect girl” for yourself, you need to understand you own fascination with female perfection, and understand the reality behind extremely beautiful women.

First thing, the idea about “10″ is just a myth. There’s no such thing as a perfect human being. You cannot tell that a girl is more “valuable” just because she looks beautiful than the other girl.

A woman that turns you on and have a great chemistry with you is the only true “10″ and is the one that’s perfect for you.

Subsequently, there are a lot of 10’s in the world, you just need to have the ability to meet a bunch of women, and make an options for yourself.

It will be a failure on your part if you treat women differently just basing solely on looks or on whose much prettier.

Why?

Because a lot of guys do that.

A woman knows what you’re thinking and sees you as shallow.

But of course there are certain women that seem on another “level” of beauty than the other. And they are treated much differently than other women.

You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds of women.

As I’ve said, you shouldn’t treat women “differently.”

Let me clear this up.

You shouldn’t treat a girl BETTER than the others. But there are two things you need to know.

First of all, a woman is turn off for those men that chases her only for the looks alone.

More than anything else, a woman values a guy that appreciates her personality.

Now for the benefits of yours, I’ll give you a heads up.

The so-called “10’s” has two different types.

Low self-esteem and high self-esteem.

The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10’s. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn’t EARN that attention.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sound harsh but I call it like that.

These women will respond to jerk behavior. They take away and flip out their validation will and do anything to get it back.

Anything.

(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Meanwhile, the high self-esteem 10’s are women that have had a taste of the elite – early from the start they realized that high levels of society were attainable to them, they exert an effort be intelligent, successful and make the most of their lives.

They know that they can get closer to a great life than everyone else, and they are motivated to put a lot of hard work to attain that.

Usually these women have good attitudes, are intelligent, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

In fact, most of beautiful women I’ve dated didn’t go to the club. They just spend their nights being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

Another interesting thing is that these women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

It is because they have high standards for themselves, and this makes most men either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it’s rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here’s the good thing. If you understand The Attraction Code you will know that these women are the easiest to attract.

Being the best man you can be and being a “male 10″ is what you will get from these Attraction Code.

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely notice an interesting thing.

Occasionally women that are less attractive will be rude to you and you’ll get an odd responses from them- that is because they know they’re not on your level – I call this as Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some girls will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But you’ll be amazed to see the responds of the most beautiful and attractive women that warm right up to you as soon as you approach them – whether on the street or in the bar – because they can see that you are on their “level.”

The woman will thinks “finally, a guy who can hang with me; he’s confident and treats me like a real person. And he’s the only guy who’s actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car.”

The Attraction Code is intended for these kinds of women. And you’ll also enjoy a lot of “adventures” with all kinds of women, but this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are lot of 10’s out there waiting for you.

Don’t waste you’re time waiting for nothing.

Vin

This is now the “Part II” of the storytelling newsletter.

In “Part I” we covered about the importance of storytelling and how it can improve your game dramatically. Now we are going to start using storytelling and from that we will understand why it is so powerful.

We are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

In “Part I” there were two things I’ve asked of you.

The first one is to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life that have changed and defined who you are, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

We are going to start out working with these things.

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas,  eliminate the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were “you kind of had to be there” stories.

Reflect on that 5 stories and see if which ones have the most emotional connection to you. From that, consider which of the stories would most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

Now that you’re down with 5 solid ideas, we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

For now, your main target with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I’m sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

As I said in “Part I” I’d do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)
“The other day I was at club voodoo with my friends and I roam around making some new friends and having a good time. Well there’s one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was really an annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint that we don’t like his presence.”

Pretty annoying story… I know, but we can turn this to something awesome.

First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

The first component, is “The Hook Question”

The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved. It is  use to captivate the group and it is the line you deliver to introduce your story.
When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start with the introduction of the story, because if there’s one person not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away from your story.

Make eye contact or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

There are two different types of hook questions.

An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.

Basing on my story here is the possible hook question:

An open ended hook question would be “How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?”

A possible yes or no hook question would be “Have you ever been to club voodoo?”

Of the two hook I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, although a yes or no one is good also cause it gets you right into the story.

So let’s add this to the story… (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)
For my story now, I’ll be using an open ended hook questions so to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just can’t get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo…(rest of story)
Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:

I am a very social person
I am a musician
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring your stories into life.
Another important aspect in expressing your personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality…

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can’t to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).
Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it’s over. It can be one line or much more… The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

You need to create a dramatic build up in order to have a successful delivery of your punch line in your story, such as by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy’s part and I don’t want to associate myself with friends like that. Also…a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining…after all…it’s a “STORY”

Now here’s the updated story with the new punch line:

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway…my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table…and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know…that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened…it was full…so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again…I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.
HOWEVER….there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

The first and most important is creating check in points.
Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story making sure that you have the full attention of the audience. It gets them more involved.

Examples are “That ever happen to you?” “Don’t you hate when that happens?” “You know what I mean?”

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. “Kind of like that over there” “Reminds me of her (point to person).”

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won’t need one near the end.

If ever you see someone walking away or the attention’s not in you, throw one out to regain focus. An example in a passage of my story would be:

“Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing….kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar).”

You don’t always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.