There are two questions I’d like to ask of you:
First, how do you let your woman know that the vibe you’re putting off in the beginning is the real you?
The other one is, How does she know that after she spent a night in bed with you all of what you said will be backed up?
“Credibility” is the answer to these questions. Credibility is the key component if you want to sleep with a girl quickly.
Most of men think they don’t have enough value, due to lack of credibility. In fact, most of the tactics they used in creating value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.
“Player vibe” is a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.
Aside from credibility the other component is sexual tension.
And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension before they sleep with a guy and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)
So let’s get down to it:
There are three levels of credibility.
1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction
Safety: Its the most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.
Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.
Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.
A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->
We must realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. We all do have our own social programmed.
It’s not really a bad thing. On the contrary, it’s very useful.
Men have an instinct of wanting to sleep with as many women as possible, on the other side women have instinct to choose guys who has demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to provide a home and raise their children.
And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.
Realize and understand that a lot of a woman’s behaviors come from her social programming.
Her programming is her reality and her world.
And credibility is about showing you understand her world.
At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.
It’s because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.
But as you get good, you’ll start to be able to match ANY woman’s worldview.
The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing a woman’s feelings or views about the world, as if it’s your own.
HERE’S AN EXAMPLE ->
You are comfortably sitting in a chair in your bedroom.
And then a guy came in. And telling you he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the sit on where you were sitting. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.
That’s pretty annoying, right? You might even think he’s crazy.
He’s “in his own world”.He’s showing you that he’s not seeing the same reality as you.
And I bet you wouldn’t trust a guy like that. Because he has shown you that he doesn’t understand and respect your world – you probably wouldn’t connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.
This is how women feel when you don’t demonstrate credibility.
If she thinks that it’s a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should also show her a believe that it’s bad for people to kiss and tell.
Having the same perceptions about the world as her will vastly build your credibility.
You can use of the three levels in this way:
Safety - It’s safe to have you in her world.
Commonality – You see things in common to her world. Having same perceptions, values, and goals
Direction – You have the ability to rearrange and influence her world.
These are best demonstrated in order.
Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.
That’s when you know you get this thing. And you can get really good at this.
At first you will just be remembering things she’s said in the past, and then repeating it after she’s forgotten she’s said anything.
If someone comes along who understands a woman’s reality so well, she doesn’t just think he’s perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.
She thinks “He’s just like me!”
This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many messes it.
Once you’ll get to this major piece, you’ll see your game will improve vastly.
